Okay, so just to see what kind of talk was out there I typed "Interracial Love" into a couple of popular search engines. I found some interesting sites that have support groups, articles, dating, advice and all that for people who are in love with each other but happen to be from different races so their love all of a sudden gets the label of "interracial love".

So I go to some of the sites and I start reading some of the material.

On the first site I read a letter that was written by some woman who's not sure if she's a racist or not. She grew up in a racist household she says but she's always tried not to be a racist herself; but when her boyfriend expresses that Asian women are his favorite type of girl she starts feeling hate towards Asians. I think, hmm, here's a case where somebody let's their own insecurities foster feelings of resentment in them which they are unable to properly identify and so the feeling gets classified as hatred for a whole group of people on the basis of that group of people being Asian.

So this woman would be opposed to interracial dating and interracial relationships that could in essence lead to this "interracial love", for no other reason than that she feels threatened. She feels as if her boyfriend was saying Asian women are better; and being insecure as she is, that makes her feel diminished in worth and therefore resentful of Asians, presumably Asian women in particular.

Then I come to a site where the theme is "interracial love is beautiful", and here I am faced with the "Opposites Attract" slogan on a page filled with photos of interracial couples, mostly black men and white women.

This gets me wondering. Why do interracial couples who argue that love is colorblind and that people should not gawk at them and treat them as if their union is so different from any other interracial love union, then turn and in the same voice tell us that we should look at them and see how beautiful their relationship is solely on the basis of the fact that they are an interracial couple?

It seems to me that love is love; and it makes no difference to me if a couple is interracial or not. And I can't help but wonder if interracial couples don't themselves contribute to the fact that many people still gawk and talk and disapprove of interracial relationships.

It's the same as in the first example of the White woman who started hating Asians because her boyfriend said Asian women were his favorite kind of girl. People start to feel resentful when interracial couples start to act as if their union is so much more beautiful than any other, or that they should get special attention because they are an interracial couple. In the first place they say accept their relationship as just a normal relationship between two people. Don't see them as different just because they are interracial; and on the other they have this in your face attitude that makes it impossible for people not to give them that second glance. It's like they're screaming at you, "look, we're an interracial couple. Look how much we love each other. Aren't you jealous of us?"

People are people. Love is love. That there is a need to spotlight on interracial love seems ridiculous to me. It seems to be a contradiction to me. The idea is that people should be able to get together if they like and love each other, and race should not be a factor. So why be any more or less proud of your love because it happens to be interracial?

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